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Red Velvet #13: Read

Read.

What article or book changed your outlook on an issue or life?


I just finished reading “Falling for Me: How I Hung Curtains, Learned to Cook, Traveled to Seville, and Fell in Love” by Anna David and while it might not have changed my life, it certainly made feel like I’m not alone.  Here’s this intelligent, attractive, successful woman in her 30s who thought that she’d have a husband and kids by now but she doesn’t.  She’s hit a point in her life where she’s wondering if the choices she’s made were the right ones, why does she fall for the wrong guys and what can she do to change her situation?  I wonder this myself but she actually does something about it.  She gets inspired by this book called “Sex and the Single Girl” by Helen Gurley Brown, which was written in the 60s, but she decides to try the author’s suggestions and apply them to current times.  What ensues are stories (a lot of which made me laugh) about online and speed dating, good/bad guys, learning how to really cook for the first time, taking a French class, a ceramics class, organizing events, impulsive trips and more.  She really takes matters into her own hands and it’s inspiring.  


With so many people around me getting engaged, it’s easy to feel like I’m somehow getting left behind or not maturing as fast.  Especially when I haven’t even been on a date in forever.  It’s so easy to forget that there are other women in this same situation and that you just have to take chances, make the best of it and be grateful for the things you DO have.  This book was a great reminder of that.  

Red Velvet #9-12 #WEverb11

#9: Appreciate

In which moment did you find yourself flooded with gratitude? How will you rally around gratitude in 2012?
 
I don’t think there’s one big moment that I could choose for this one.  Despite the times when I complain, I’m honestly so grateful and appreciative of a lot of things in my life.  I may not always show it, but I feel it.  

Like, every time I’m out with one of my friends I can’t help but feel grateful for their friendship.  As I get older, I realize more and more that connecting with someone isn’t an every day occurrence.  It’s rare to find someone you can truly be yourself with and confide in and I try not to ever lose sight of that.  Or when I’m at family get-togethers.  Even though my relatives can be crazy and slightly overbearing, would I really want it any other way?  Probably not.  I love that we all live so close each other.  I appreciate that I had the opportunity to travel this year, connect with people through writing, read more, survive everything at work.  The list goes on.  

While it’s important to appreciate those big moments, I think it’s equally important to appreciate the little ones too and everything in between.


#10: Create
Share a creative project you undertook this year (art, writing, DIY, cooking, home decoration, crafts, photography … whatever comes to mind). How do you use your creativity to express yourself?

On my personal blog, I participated in a photo challenge recently that was run by Positively Present (one of my favorite sites!).  It lasted the entire month of November and the focus was on gratitude, which really appealed to me. Taking photos every day based on the daily topics (favorite food, memories, happiness, books, etc) forced me to think, be creative and focus on the things around me.  I really enjoyed it and even kind of miss it now.  Plus it gave me a chance to try something new and connect with other bloggers online.

Even if you’re not into photography but just love taking pictures on your phone (I adore the Instagram app on my iPhone!), I’d definitely recommend trying it!


(My photo for Day 28: Nighttime)


#11: Try
What 12 new things do you want to do/accomplish in 2012?

1.  Find a new job
2.  Move out
3.  Do at least one thing (I don’t know what) that’s outside my comfort zone.
4.  Travel somewhere new. (More travel and roadtrips in general.)
5.  Go to the beach this summer (simple I know but every year I say I want to go to the beach and it never happens.)
6.  Read 100 books (Funfetti inspired this one!)
7.  Meet someone / go out on a date.
8.  Save more money (like come up with a plan/budget and stick with it).
9.  Go to more concerts.
10.  Travel somewhere by myself (I think about going to California to see my cousin all the time, but my fear of planes always stops me).
11.  Take a class - yoga, zumba, maybe beginner’s ballet for adults.  Something!
12.  Every year, I tell myself that I should learn a new web programming language to stay on top of things professionally. But I never do and I really should.


#12: Thrive
What was your healthiest habit of 2011? What would you like to change or do differently in 2012?

This seems kind of silly but my healthiest habit is probably cutting back on soda.  I’ve always lived off of soda (Code Red Mountain Dew, to be exact) and would drink a couple bottles per day in college.  Now I only have soda once a week at most which is HUGE for me.  Instead I stick to raspberry iced tea, water, ginger ale (I don’t think it’s really soda) and of course, coffee.  It’s such a seemingly small change but health-wise, I think it does make a difference.


I think next year, I’d like to be more active.  Join a class at the gym with a friend (I always mention yoga or zumba) or go on walks more often.  During the summer on my days off, my cousin and I would go on this trail near where we live and walk for about 3 miles.  I’d always feel so good afterward and it’s the kind of thing I need to do more next year.  

Red Velvet #8: Choose

Choose.

What was the biggest choice you made in 2011? What caused you to choose what you chose?


I don’t know if there’s one BIG choice I made this year (unless you count treating myself to a much needed vacation). If anything, I tried to look at my daily choices more.  I wanted to make choices that would make me feel less stressed or give me opportunities to do things I love.  I mean, ultimately I just want to be happy.  It’s such a simple thing but I honestly do think it’s a choice you make for yourself. I can’t tell you how many times I would tell myself at work - don’t sweat the little things.  I didn’t always follow that advice (which Funfetti can attest to!) but on the days when I did, it felt really good and I’m getting better at doing that. No one wants to be sitting at their desk internally raging at their coworkers.  (I swear, I don’t.)  Or the decision to read more.  Again a simple choice and yet it’s one that’s made me very happy.  I’ve always been a bookworm and for whatever reason, I went through this period post-college where I hardly read at all.  I missed it! Now I’m reading all the time, escaping into these wonderful stories.  Books just make me happier.  Same goes for blogging.  I love to write but it’s always been stop and go for me.  Then for the past year and a half, I’ve made the conscious effort to keep at it and it’s been so rewarding.  

 
It’s kind of like that saying - how sometimes it’s the little things that matter most.  Maybe I didn’t make one life-altering decision.  Instead I made a lot of little choices that made this past year a happier one as a whole.  And that’s probably something I’m going to try and keep at next year (and that year after that!).  

Red Velvet #7: Travel #WEverb11

Travel.

Where did you travel this year? What was your favorite part? If you didn’t get to travel, where do you want to go next year?


I went to London and Paris with one of my best friends this year.  It was my first time out of the country and one of the most memorable experiences of my life.  It’s funny, not only do I remember everything about the trip itself but I also remember all the moments leading up to it.  


Last Christmas, I had spent some time with a cousin on my dad’s side of the family that I rarely see.  We get along great but he lives all the way in Australia so I probably see him every 4 years or so.  He had just gotten back from a trip to Iceland and was telling me all about his travels and the people he met.  Then I told him how I’d never been out of the country.  What followed was a look of horror on his face and him saying, “Tell me you’ve at least been to Canada.”  (I have.)  I couldn’t get stop thinking about it and less than a week later, I was IMing Giggles and telling her we needed to travel ASAP.  Enough with the waiting, let’s just do it.  And we did.  

It was amazing, to say the least.  I loved everything about London and Paris (minus the occasional grumpy Parisian).  I’ve already talked in length about my vacation but if I had to name a few things that stood out to me it would probably be: the Eiffel Tower, warm fluffy croissants, “the Tube”, double decker buses, Covent Garden, the Louvre, Notre Dame and spending a night out dancing (can’t remember the last time I did that!).

But more than anything, I’m just happy to have done something different this year.  I feel like it’s the start of many more travels to come!

Red Velvet #6: Favor #WEverb11

Favor.

What was your favorite month of 2011? Why did it beat out all 11 other months?


Would it be strange to choose December, even though the month just started? It’s the month I look forward to every year. Aside from the obvious (Christmas!), there are all these other traditions in my life that I get excited about…

 

Every year one of my college roommates throws a party filled with good food (her dad’s chicken salad is amazing) and singing Christmas carols around the piano in her living room. She started inviting us our senior year of college (I think) and we’ve been going ever since.

 

My best friends and I have our own holiday dinner where we pick a fancy restaurant, get all dolled up and exchange presents.  Then inevitably, we go to someone’s house afterwards and talk for hours.  We’ve all been so busy this year.. so it makes the times when we can all get together extra special.

 

My cousins and I decided to do a Secret Santa gift exchange this year.  Partially to save money (just being honest!) but I actually think it’s a lot of fun.  My person is someone I tend to get gift cards and sweaters for but this time, I put some extra thought into it and I’m really excited to see the expression on his face when he opens his gift.  

 

And course, the vacation days.  I always take the last week and a half of December off.  I’ve already got trips into the city planned, might go see a musical and other Christmas parties to go to.  It’s nice to actually have time for myself and not have to think about work (or commuting).  


The festivities officially begin this weekend.. and I can’t wait!