I remember a time in college, between sophomore and junior year, when I wanted to take a semester off, and apply to a program in another state. Things were rough at the time. A lot of changes were occurring around me, and I was in a relationship that had been dead for awhile. I was also still holding out hope for a person from my past to realize I was “the one”. It seemed like the perfect time to get away. Start fresh. I told my best friend about it, and I wouldn’t call her response supportive. Instead, she said she felt like I was running away. Out of all the benchmarks we have experienced together, this is certainly small beans. It was probably a conversation over AIM or something too. Not even on the phone. But I remember it well. I took what she said very seriously, and didn’t apply. Instead I attempted to welcome the changes and wade through.
So why do I bring this up when it all worked out? Well, I was talking to a friend this week who was thinking of making a big change in her life. Huge change. Like moving away for a year to figure out what she really wants. This is a woman in a committed relationship, who has been going to graduate school for her career. And she’s been having a change of heart. This happens. People change their minds all the time, but when it’s something that’s required so much hard work, money, and time… it’s a bigger deal. But once you take those details away, it’s a choice like any other. Are you unhappy? Okay, what are you going to do about it then?